This is the month I turn 30. At first I was a less than thrilled with the idea of 30. I dreaded it a bit to be honest. However, now I see it as sort of exciting. It’s a new decade in my life with some serious potential. My 20s brought me a college degree and many experiences to go along with it, true love and a beautiful marriage, settling into life in our own house in a city we LOVE. Everyone says the 30s are even better. BETTER?! Bring it on!
It is fitting that this birthday (and clearly every birthday of mine 🙂 ) comes in September. When I was in school (back when it actually started in September) it was the a new start to a new school year. It’s the beginning of fall, even if it still close to 100 degrees outside. I guess technically the weather has until the official first day of fall on September 21st to get its act together, but I’ve lived in Texas a long time and am not holding my breath. Anyway, fall is my favorite season.
With the idea of a new decade and new beginnings, it is the perfect time to reflect. I have joined Tina’s 30 days of Reflection. It’s a time to learn to be quiet with yourself and appreciate all you have to give. I can’t think of a better thing to do to start a new phase of my life. Join in or check it out by clicking the 30 Days:Are you in? link on the right.
I am also reading Eat Love Pray right now, which fits in with all of this really well. The author has finished the first portion of her journey in Italy and is now in India. She has traveled to India partly to learn the art of meditation and struggles with it a bit. She has a hard time clearing her thoughts and just being or listening rather than talking or asking. That is hard for me too. I have a wandering mind and to just sit still and “clear the mechanism” (anyone know that movie?) is an actual challenge. In the book she references what the “Buddhists call a monkey mind – the thoughts that swing from limb to limb, stopping only to scratch themselves, spit, and howl.” I relate. I think that learning to sit, be still, be quiet (even in the mind), and focus on one thought for self renewal and appreciation will be a very good practice to learn now and carry through life.
My mom used to “hypnotize” herself. Let me just clear up any thoughts that word may bring to mind. My mom is in no way new-age or kooky. She did have someone teach her once, though, to block out all that’s going on around her and just take a moment. She calls it hypnotize, but I see it as meditation. She would go in her closet where it is quiet and cozy and probably the only place us kids wouldn’t think to look 🙂 and just take a moment. It centered her. I remember her telling me this years ago. I don’t know when she did it or how often. I never witnessed it as it is something private. I do now see how sometimes it is necessary. We all just need a moment. There is so much going on around us and in our own heads. We need a break, even for five minutes.
Tina’s idea is to take that break and use it to better yourself. Think and reflect on something that will bring you to an appreciation of yourself and peace. I can’t think of a better way to set myself up for all the wonderful things to come in my 30s. And beyond. No more hesitation.